All abuse is not physical. If someone is punching you in the face, you know it’s abuse. But if you sincerely feel you may be going crazy but don’t know why, you could be suffering from an abusive relationship and not even know it.
It took me many long and frustrating years to recognize that abuse was happening in my marriage. It took even longer for me to admit it, and still longer to take a stand against it.
A good friend of mine who used to have her own family and marriage counseling practice offered me some helpful information that changed my life.
When I read it, I couldn’t beleive someone had actually put into words the bizarre behavior that described what my life had become.
Here is the short summary. But follow the link at the end for all 10 commandments. I pray what you read will be life changing for you as well.
The Ten Commandments Of Narcissistic Families:
The First And Great Commandment Is This:
“Be a “good” person: Be blind, be quiet, be numb, be careful, keep secrets, avoid reality, avoid relationships, don’t cry, don’t trust, don’t feel, be serious, don’t talk, don’t love and above all, make everyone think you’re perfect…even if it makes you feel guilty.”
The Second Is Like Unto It:
“Since you’re worthless and nobody loves you anyway (including yourself), don’t try to change yourself. You’re not worth the effort and you couldn’t do it if you tried anyway. God won’t help you either. So get back where you belong. There’s nothing wrong anyway so what’s your problem! See, I told you that you were crazy.