Even though I’ve had a strong faith and a relationship with God since I was very young, and I was very solid in what I believed, there came a long period of time when it seemed I had no roots. I was like a ship on an angry sea with no anchor, tossed wherever the … More Planted
I don’t know about you, but I have struggled with some pretty amazing amounts of fear in my life. One of anxiety and depression’s favorite foods is fear. They feed on all our worst fears and grow until they’re completely out of control. I have experienced the mind-numbing panic of an anxiety attack, the hellish … More No More Fear
I can still remember the sense of relief that flooded through my entire being when I read for the first time a frighteningly accurate description of my abuser’s behavior. I knew that the things he was doing were driving me systematically over the edge. But when I tried to explain it, I truly feared I … More Whew! I’m Not Really Crazy?
This is one of the most common and disturbing questions people ask when they discover a co-worker, family member, or friend who has remained in an abusive relationship for any amount of time. And the longer a victim has stayed, the harsher the judgement that is delivered with that question. This simple question actually helps … More So Why Doesn’t She Just Leave?
“What!? That’s not abuse, it’s LOVE!” I can already hear so many fans indignantly rising to spout all the reasons why the 50 Shades so-called love story is NOT abusive. No, in fact, they say it’s a great way to spend Valentines Day now, watching the movie and reading the book together as a way … More 50 Shades of Abuse
50 shades of control… Although this is the last part in this 5-part series on understanding narcissism, I’m sure it won’t be the last time I post on the subject. Narcissism at its core is not only about self-absorption (some narcissists actually appear to hate themselves) but it is all about control. They want your … More Narcissism Exposed: part 5
When you know someone isn’t treating you right, but the things they do are so subtly manipulative that you can’t quite put your finger on exactly what’s so bad about what they’re doing….you’re probably being gas-lighted. Follow the link below to an excellent article on this subject to discover what gas-lighting is, why it’s so … More Narcissism Exposed: part 4
Finally! People are starting to see that, not only is domestic violence a huge problem in Christian marriages, but in general the Church leaders are more concerned with protecting their image than protecting the victims they are supposed to help. The following article shows a perfect example of this with a famous pastor, Saeed Abedini, … More The Church’s Dirty Secret
What is narcissism? The term narcissism comes from Greek mythology and the story of Narcissus. Narcissus was handsome, arrogant and in love with his own image. He couldn’t pull himself away from his reflection in a pool of water. In the end his self-love destroyed him and he died staring at himself in the water. … More Narcissism Exposed: part 3
One of the biggest keys to breaking free from the control of the narcissists in my life, was recognizing the role I was playing in their game. What? A game? Yes, my life had become a crazy game with rules that always changed so I could never win. Until… I stopped. Playing. The. Game. What … More Narcissism Exposed: part 2